AI chatbots are becoming part of everyday life for many families. Kids use them for homework help, creative projects, learning new topics, and yes—sometimes just for fun. As parents, it's natural to wonder: Is this safe? What should I know? And how can I make sure my child has a positive experience?

If your family is exploring AI tools like ChatGPT, you're not alone. Millions of teens and tweens are curious about these technologies, and they can genuinely be helpful when used appropriately. But like any new technology, AI chatbots come with questions about safety, privacy, and age-appropriateness.

Understanding the Risks

AI chatbots aren't always dangerous, but they do present some challenges for kids and teens (like many apps, ChatGPT has an age minimum of 13). Here's what parents should keep in mind:

  • Content concerns. AI can sometimes generate responses about sensitive topics—anything from mature themes to misinformation. While ChatGPT has guardrails, no system is perfect, and kids are naturally curious about testing boundaries.
  • Limited visibility. When your child chats with an AI, you can't see the conversation history unless you look over their shoulder, or take their device. This makes it harder to know what questions they're asking or what information they're receiving.
  • Developmental appropriateness. What's educational for a 16-year-old might be overwhelming or confusing for an 11-year-old. Most AI chatbots aren't designed with specific age groups in mind. While users must input their birthdate to sign up for an account, ages are not verified.
  • Privacy and data use. Understanding how a child's conversations are stored, used, or potentially used to train AI models is important for informed consent.

What ChatGPT Offers: Parental Controls You Should Enable

If your child is using ChatGPT, enabling parental controls should be your first step. While far from comprehensive, every parent should take advantage of what they do offer.

OpenAI has introduced the following parental controls to give parents more information and control.

Account Linking

Parents and teens (13+) can link their accounts through an invitation system. Once connected, parents can manage settings and receive notifications. You'll be alerted if your teen disconnects the link. Of course teens can create secret accounts that are not linked.

Content and Feature Management

OpenAI's controls allow you to:

  • Reduce exposure to sensitive content including sexual, violent, or extreme material
  • Disable specific features like voice mode, image generation, and memory storage
  • Set quiet hours to limit when ChatGPT can be accessed
  • Opt out of having your teen's conversations used for AI training

Emergency Notifications

If ChatGPT's system flags language related to self-harm or suicide risk, a human reviewer evaluates the conversation first. Parents then receive a notification with timestamp and context—but not the full conversation itself.

  • How to set it up: In the ChatGPT app or web interface, navigate to Settings → Parental Controls, send or accept an invitation, and customize your preferences.
  • Bottom line: If your child has access to ChatGPT, you should absolutely enable these controls. They're not comprehensive, and they don't give you full visibility into conversations, but they provide some protection and awareness. Setting them up takes just a few minutes.

A Safer Alternative Built for Families: PinwheelGPT

ChatGPT's parental controls are helpful and should be used, but they have real limitations. They were added to a platform originally designed for adults, which means safety features came as an afterthought rather than being built into the foundation.

PinwheelGPT takes a different approach: we built an AI chatbot from the ground up with children and families in mind. And it's completely free to use on any device.

Here's what makes PinwheelGPT different:

Full Conversation Visibility

Parents can review what their child asks and what responses they receive. This isn't about invading privacy—it's about staying informed and being able to have meaningful conversations about what they're learning.

Proactive Content Filtering

Our system is designed to automatically filter age-inappropriate content before it reaches your child.

Flexible Usage Controls

Set daily time limits, schedule when AI access is available, and adjust permissions as your child grows and demonstrates responsibility.

Educational Focus

PinwheelGPT includes age-appropriate prompts and learning paths that encourage curiosity while keeping exploration safe and constructive.

Transparent Privacy

Your child's conversations are not used to train AI models.

Purpose-Built for Younger Users

While ChatGPT requires users to be 13+, PinwheelGPT is designed for a wider age range, with safety features that scale to your child's developmental stage.

Making the Right Choice for Your Family

Here's our straightforward recommendation: If your child is already using ChatGPT, enable parental controls immediately. They're not perfect, but they provide important protections that you shouldn't go without.

That said, parents looking for more comprehensive safety features have another option. PinwheelGPT was designed specifically for kids, with the oversight and protections that families need built in from day one—not added later.

Consider these questions:

  • How old is my child, and what's their level of digital maturity?
  • Do I want to review actual conversations, or am I comfortable with limited notifications?
  • Is my child using AI primarily for education, creativity, or general exploration?
  • How much visibility and control do I want over their AI interactions?

Getting Started with PinwheelGPT

If you're interested in an AI experience designed specifically for kids and families, PinwheelGPT is free and ready to use. See how conversation visibility, age-appropriate filtering, and family-friendly features work together to create a safer AI environment for children.

Try PinwheelGPT!